Sunday, May 10, 2009

You kiss and you die?

Assalamualikum and good day to all my friends. Yea...Im so busy with my jihad, and I hope I will accomplish my aim and dreams as soon as possible.
Today is mother's day...talking about mother's day....there are so many reaction about it. Some of my friend says that I'm trying to look modern by celebrate mother's day, some of my friends dont believe in mother's day because it is a marketing strategy to sell the greeting cards, some of my friends think that his mum is an old fashion women who dont care about 'mother's day', some of my friends argue that mother's day should be every day....etc. Well I respect them for what they believe or disbelieve in. Intelligent people have already thought what and why they believe in something....
Western Australia

But as for me, I look at mother's day as a good strategy to strengten our family ties. It is once a year and why not we celebrate, if we can get the whole family together that would be fun I think. Or if that is not possible, at least we can share among our sibling to buy a present...it doesn't matter cheap or expensive, what really matters.... it's the thought that counts. I think now all mothers are aware of 'mother's day', modern or old fashion women....there is lots of promo through newspaper or TVs, and we dont want our mum to feel neglected. Maybe she looks like she doesn't care but deep down who knows.....maybe she's been waiting for her children to wish her 'mother's day'....so dont take it for granted.

I know in our society, there are still a lot of cases where the children cant hug or kiss their own parents....it seem like 'you kiss and you die'. I hope it is not too harsh to say that some children only kiss their parents during their funeral. I cant blame them because it is not our culture...we are not use to it, we are not physical in expressing our love...some feedback from my friends...'tak biasa la', 'malu la', 'ehh nanti mak aku ingat aku ni demam ker apa' etc.....

Well, I see it this way, good deed is always difficult thing to do and sometimes need courage to do it (if it not halal, so easy...teringat plak kes Nab*l terpeluk Irm*..opsss..this is not gossiping blog ok..ahaha). So 'mother's day' is the good day to implement it and once we do it... it will be easier and then it will become natural. Just tell our mum, today is mother's day and I have a present for you and I pray for your good health...and instead of kissing her hand, just hug and kiss her cheek. I know how awkward it is at the beginning but once you get through the first time...you can just do it next time easily. One hug will make our mum happy for the whole day!

I'm not a good son but I try to become one. This entry is good reminder to me myself. And again, 'mother's day' is a good occasion but dont take it it for granted. As in Islam, our responsibility toward our parents is not only on Mother's day but it is every day.

Happy Mother's Day!

54 comments:

AZANI said...

selamar hari ibu untuk semua ibu ibu di dunia ini, ucapan yang bukan untuk sehari tetapi selagi ada insan yang bernama ibu.

Zalisa Maz @ ZN Isa said...

selamat untuk bapa juga :)

KhairiL's said...

selamat hari ibu kpd semua ibu yg berada didunia ni...

=)

meen said...

Salam arsaili,

Setuju sangat dgn apa yg arsaili cakap tu..mmg budaya kita tka biasa menunjukkan kasih sayang dengan peluk cium..tapi benda yg baik..kenapa kita tak biasakan..

Apapun..selamat hari ibu untuk semua yang bergelar ibu..

TokNabe said...

Selamat hari Ibu to Arsaili? hehe... taklah.

Bermacam panggilan ada.. mak, ibu, umi, mummy etc... semuanya merujuk kepada satu... orang yang melahirkan kita. Untuk mereka ni, saya ucapkan Selamat Hari Ibu. Jasa mereka ini tak ternilai..

zany said...

sebenarnya setiap hari adalah hari ibukan.
cuma mungkin hari ni dinobatkan sebagai hari ibu supaya dapat diraikan dengan lebih meriah. Ataupun hari ni ibu dapat rest the whole day.

silversarina said...

Akak setuju dengan n3 ni, tunjukkanlah yang kita sayang ibu kita , peluk dan ciumlah ibu tersayang selagi masih punya peluang dan masa untuk bertemu dan bersama.


Selamat hari Ibu buat semua ibu di dunia ini.

Lan Bingka said...

setuju! selamat hari ibu kpd semua ibu...

atie said...

salam arsaili,sayangilah ibu tika masih bersama kan...sapalah kita tanpa mereka....

cikgu panji said...

satu n3 yang seronok dibaca.usahkan nak peluk,nak cium tgn pun susah kalau tak biasa. dan memang susah untuk membiasakan yang tidak biasa ini.
"sayang ibu"

SHIMI said...

selamat hari ibu
moga kamu menjadi anak yang baik kepada ibu kamu di dunia dan akhirat

dEeWaN said...

Salam arsaili. Jasa ibu x dpt dbls. Ank2 sekarang begitu malu utk memeluk & mcium ibunya. Sebagai ank, sentiasalah kita btanya kbr atau sentiasa mengunjungi meka selagi hayat meke ada...

kayteeze said...

Terima kasih atas ucapan itu. Tie benar2 menghargainya..

Moga2 kita dapat menjadi anak yang membahagiakan ibu dan bapa....

patungcendana said...

'some of my friends think that his mum is an old fashion women who dont care about 'mother's day','


of course they care, they.re just too old fashion to be outspoken...the children has got to take the initiative first...

thanks for the wish...yup...ucapan yang cun....:-)

atty's said...

selamat hari ibu..

Neeza Shahril said...

I didn't used to hug and kiss my parents. We're not taught to do that..
But... as we grew up, we learn it ourselves..
We've been practising hugging and kissing our parents for quite some time.
We teach our kids to do that as well..

tapi cam lelebih lah pulak.. abis semua, both pipi, dahi and sometimes dagu pun dia can cium hehee..

xiiinam said...

Semua ibu berhak dikasihi....
Semua ibu berhak dihargai....
Oleh insan bernama anak...

Terpulanglah bagaimana caranya, yang penting keikhlasan si anak...kerana hanya dengan siraman air kasih anak itu, roh dan jiwa ibu akan sentiasa berbunga .....

Betul...hari-hari kita menghargai ibu...
Tapi hari ini lebih istimewa...
Tak ada salah langsung buat ckLah...Sungguh!!!

ashley said...

GEEE...
you are ABSOLUTELY RIGHT!!

hepi mother's day..

OOOOPPSS!!

smile.
thank you for your wish. may Allah bless you always..

en_me said...

but me pasan s'thing fishy here - u r not mentioning ur mother.. salamm bro

kak ina kl said...

salam perkenalan dari akak..terima kasih sudi datang kat umah akak..dan terima kasih juga kerna memberi ucapan ...

macam kamu ni merantau jauh bebeno mesti sentiasa rindukan belaian dan masakan ibu kamu..selamat hari ibu buat ibu kamu juga..

wasalam..

ZULKIFLI MOHAMED said...

Salam kenal juga saudara Arsaili,

terima kasih kunjungan saudara ke laman saya,

setelah membaca apa yang saudara tulis ini,

saya berpendapat :
soal menyayangi bonda kita bukan satu perkara yang perlu disamakan dengan APA-APA JUA SAMBUTAN

biar apa pun pendapat umum lainnya,
yang pasti bonda haruslah disayangi sebaik yang dapat, selagi kita berkesempatan bersama manusia bonda ...

salam kenal saudara.

a.b geldofg said...

hpy2 mther'day

zino said...

zino baru jumpa abah bonda tadi dah pelok cium mereka..

selamat hari ibu.. dan bapa sekali hehe

simah said...

adik..memang..mother's day to strengthen ties is usually a good way to celebrate it... but as mother..i sure know myself.. that i will feel sad if my kids totally ignore mother's day...a hug will do definitely...

happy mother's day ...!!! take care :0)

CT said...

Salam dear,
If our children never witness us hugging and kissing our parents...they'll feel awkward to hug us too!

AzD said...

Salam kenal,
You are right, memang sesetengah org segan nak cium ibubapa.

Alhamdulillah I've been kissing and hugging my mom dar sekolah lagi. Ustaz kata selalulah cium dahi ibubapa sebab itu tempat paling mulia, tempat kita sujud kepada Allah. Bukan nanti mati baru nak cium. Now I've brought this practice into my in-laws family.

Terima kasih singgah.

Zue said...

Selamat hari ibu buat semua

Zareda Norman said...

Arsaili

Sata setuju dengan kata kata Arsaili..

its time to get together to ties the relationship between mother and daughter.. semoga perasaan kasih sayang itu bertambah

Your mother such a lucky mommy to have you..

DrSam said...

salam bro,
well written entry. And totally agreed with CT. We show the good example, children will follow.

Happy mother's day!

madam gold said...

I am teaching my children to kiss me every morning before stepping out of the car.It works.Tapi yg dah besar n dok di hostel tu segan bila kena kiss ngan mama dia.Have to make it a habit.

abah aman said...

Salam.
seorang ibu mampu menjaga sepuluh orang anak tetapi sepuluh orang anak belum tentu mampu menjaga seorang ibu. Kepada mereka yang masih ada ibu, jangan sia-siakan waktu yang ada.

Akak said...

Salam Arsaili...

Entry yg cukup menarik, semuga semua ibu sentiasa dihargai dan dihormati sentiasa..

Masy said...

mother's day is far way better than valentine's. why they don't argue about that? heh.

selamat hari ibu utk ibu Arsaili :)

izman said...

its good if we can celebrate mothers day every day, but how many of us do?

selamat hari ibu untuk ibu kamu.

rerama salju said...

Salam Arsaili,

moga kita akan terus menjadi anak yang terbaik untuk ibu kita ya?Gembirakan hati mereka,sebelum terlewat.....

D'Rimba said...

Terima kasih.....Jenguklah selalu ya...

Yunus Badawi said...

Kebanyakan ibu2 dah expect something during mother's day kerana dah terlalu dikomersialkan. Why not buat surprise minggu ni pulak? hehehe

maza said...

happy mother days too...

in family, we do not used and practicing to wish anything injunction to celebrate anything even a birthday!

so, only after I'm become an adult and move from family, know how to appreciate people via wishing them. Especially like today occasion...


heheheh...

maza said...

happy mother days too...

in family, we do not used and practicing to wish anything injunction to celebrate anything even a birthday!

so, only after I'm become an adult and move from family, know how to appreciate people via wishing them. Especially like today occasion...


heheheh...

addyaholix said...

salam bang.
salam hari ibu buat ibu abg jugak. juga buat ibu-ibu seluruh dunia. sepatutnya kita raikan ibu hampir setiap masa kan?

Penoreh said...

salam sang kelana,

tiada siapa pun yang sempurna kan.. namun kamu masih dlm golongan yang terbaik bro.. :)

selamat hari ibu

Rush Murad said...

Salam... Happy belated mother's day to ur mom... :D

perkara biasa dalam keluarga kami utk cium pipi ibubapa ketika bersua.. lebih2 lagi kalau dah lama tak jumpa... dan perkara biasa utk saya cium pipi (sambil bersalam dan merapatkan tubuh) kawan2 (lelaki sahaja) yg juga dah lama tak jumpa...

kad0k. said...

selamat hari ibu utk ibu kamu. sayangi dia selagi ada. thru my exp. :)

muadzlife said...

yes, good time to be together...

kiss and hug them and you'll feel wonder!!

rajawali said...

:)

Kasawari said...

salam bro.. satu tulisan yang menarik dan membuat saya keterharuan...

selamat hari ibu..

Faridrashidi said...

Salam,

Selamat hari ibu ya..sila baca nukilan :)

Mia's Mom said...

Salam Arsaili,

When I visited my reader's list this morning there is a recommendation that I should follow your blog. It claims that the recommendation is based on similar interest - well, so, here I am - your new follower. (:-D)

As a Mum I do wish that everybody will be more open in showering their parents and children with hugs and kisses. I was born in a family which do so and every of our phone conversation with Mum & Dad will end with "I love you".

echah_syed said...

sgt menyentuh Qalbu.. :)

takecare anakanda.

jejakalkindi said...

good entry..I love my mom too..

fusarium solani said...

Salam,
Arsaili,

Terima kasih sudi menjengah blog saya.

MULAN said...

ya lor.. everyday is mother's day lor..

Faisal Admar said...

some of my colleagues still got this silly minded... malu or tak biasa thingy which for me sucks big time.

they will regret when the mother's gone and mourning for the rest of their life.

Mommy Lyna said...

Oh i still kiss my parents even if dah jd parent. Hehe